A friend of mine recently confided in me that most nights she goes to bed feeling depressed saying to herself, “Where did I go wrong? I never imagined my life would look like this.” She’s having trouble finding a job and a decent date. Almost broke and alone, she’s tired of the struggle.
Can you relate? I certainly can. Perhaps you can’t relate to those particular details, but I’ll bet you’re no stranger to the struggle. Feeling that life is hard, wishing things were different and believing that something must be wrong with you for feeling so down.
Everywhere we turn we see people telling us how to find happiness, peace, bliss and the perfect life that comes with positive thinking and letting go. Coaches, spiritual teachers and public speakers sharing their stories of how they overcame their money issues, depression, health issues, relationship issues, etc. Handing us tips and strategies on how to raise our vibration and find our lasting happiness.
Don’t get me wrong. These teachings are inspirational. They help raise our spirits when we need the strength to get back up after falling for the hundredth time. Heck, sometimes, listening to music with inspiring lyrics is the only thing that gets me through a day.
The problem comes when we think that happiness is a destination that we can reach. That once we find “true” happiness we can unpack our bags and live there permanently.
We think there must be something wrong with us because no matter how much we go through there is still more chaos and turmoil waiting for us around the corner. We feel we must be doing it incorrectly because we can’t stay at the true happiness, perfect life stage.
We feel this way because we have forgotten that the turmoil and struggle is part of the journey. As painful as these struggles are, they help us heal and grow.
Struggle doesn’t make us less than. We all struggle. Heck, a few hours ago I stood in the shower sobbing asking the divine “Why does it have to be so hard? How many f’n lessons do I have to learn and why can’t this be easier?”
I’m a spiritual teacher and I still struggle with depression. I’m a healer and I still deal with health issues. I have daily practices to deepen my self-love, open my heart, trust the divine, and offer my life up to divine will, yet I still struggle daily with being patient with my kids.
The struggle is real. There is nothing wrong with you for struggling.
I could end this post by giving tips to help inspire you and pull you up when you are down. I can tell you ways to find the beauty in the dark parts of life. But there are enough of those posts all around us (including on my own website).
Today I’m only going to say that you are not alone. We are all struggling, some days, months and years holding more struggle than others.
The All That Is wants to be sure I don’t go until I remind you that we are infinitely loved and guided by spirit at all times, especially when we are struggling. Don’t be afraid to lean on your spirit guides, angels, God, Goddess, Mama Gaia, etc., during the rough patches. They are there, holding you, loving you, helping you as your higher self happily marches through yet another growth opportunity that feels to you very much like hell.
To you, to my friend, and to myself I say this; Hang in there girl. You’ve got this, even when it feels like you don’t. Please treat yourself with compassion. There is nothing wrong with you for struggling in life. You are not alone, we are all here right with you.
Let’s love each other and take turns holding space for each other as we stumble, crying, through our latest struggle.
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